Add progress bar for multiprocess loading

[daradib]

Description

Replaces Pool.starmap with Pool.imap to enable progress bar for loading data with multiple workers. Also reduces code duplication across single and multi-worker paths and adds an optional total parameter to get_tqdm_iterable.

Fixes #20047

Type of Change

• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
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[AstraBert]

lgtm!